After a clash of civilizations, its a clash of the sexes !

The question is not just about dowry laws but it relates to the complete degradation of masculinity and men in general.

The laws like 498A and the other laws relating to gender have been moulded in the favor of women and partially against the man only after a detailed and sustained attack on masculinity had been made.

For the past three decades there has been sustained attack on men and their sexuality. In the media and the other discussions men now see themselves portrayed as the worst kind if animals - ruthless, cruel, violent, substance abusive, sexually pervert and greedy creatures who are generally after "one thing". They are portrayed as ones who are constantly harming the women and children.Women and children need the protection from these cruel men.

So, Men and their masculine traits are in great dishonor. This is spreading all over the world. From the Serbian "rape camps", to the scourge of child sexual abuse, weekly accounts of the press on murder stories, men are seen as a problem which can be dealt only by some "special laws" similar to anti terrorist laws. The positive faces among men are somehow painted as non men or at least gender neutral, while all negatives are labeled as crime that "men" commit. This robs men of their position of pride and forces them to accept a position much inferior to their fair status.

The phenomenon had been worldwide and in India it started in seventies. The task before feminists in India was a tough one to start with. They first attacked Lord Ram and gave him a bad name, labeled him a cruel and insensitive husband. Many press articles debated on this matter of exile of Sita but feminists unfortunately tasted their first victory. After the position Of Ram had been degraded common men were an easier task. Within a decade they created furore over violence, dowry, rape (mathura rape case was a turning point ) and other make believe cooked up statistics. Soon authorities "anguished" over "rising" gender violence & gave women legal weapons one after another.

First was the rape law then the divorce law and then the 498A and now the domestic violence bill. More would follow

Even women associated or related to men are tarnished and rubbisshed. That's why elderly women "..the husband's mother.." is arrested. Pregnent sisters, who had the misfortune of having a male sibling are labelled as co accused in FALSE dowry cases, arrested and humiliated. Unammried sisters are also arrested or threatened.

Unless we negate the feminist propaganda as a whole and create an impression opposite the one feminists have created we are unlikely to suceed in our mission.

Will Someone For God's Sake Marry Maureen?

Maybe She'll Shut Up

November 21, 2005

I read with ashen resignation that Maureen Dowd, the professional spinster of the New York Times, will soon birth a book, no doubt parthenogenetically, called Are Men Necessary? The problem apparently is that men have not found Maureen necessary. Hell hath…. Clearly there is something wrong with men.

I weary of the self-absorbed clucking of aging poultry.

Why is Maureen hermetically single? For starters, she is not just now your classic hot ticket. She’s not just over the hill, but into the mountains, to Grandmother’s house we go. She probably gets more daily maintenance than a 747, but she still looks as though a vocational school held an injection-molding contest and everyone lost. That leaves her with only her personality as bait. The prognosis is grim.

Was that ungentlemanly? She makes a career of being disagreeable about men. What’s sauce for the gander is sauce for the goose, say I.

Reading her unending plaints, one concludes that she is deeply in love—with herself, and too loyal ever to cheat with a man. Behind her writing you always hear the little voice, “I’m so wonderful, so elite…why doesn’t somebody marry me?” (Well, Maureen, I can give you a few ideas. You’re a pain in the ass….) “I’m so smart, I’m so powerful, I’m so, sooo elite, so talented, so…special.” As, in their way, are ingrown toenails. “I’m successful, shriek. Men hate me because I’m smart. They feel threatened because I’m so wonderful.”

Actually, Maureen, you are no more threatening, or appealing, than somebody else’s gym socks. I suspect that men don’t like you because you aren’t likeable.

Now, precisely why are you so wonderful? Clearly you aren’t stupid. You are a competent if sophomoric writer. Dummies can’t do that. But I’ll tell you what, Sweet Potato: I don’t think I know anyone who would want to go out with you. As best I can tell, should you have an original thought, it would need counseling, for depression and loneliness.

Smart women are an attraction of Washington, at least the parts off the cocktail circuit. They made fifteen years in that wretched city bearable for me. I knew women with serious brains, golden-girl biochemists at NIH, a gal who ran a federal positron-emission tomography lab, weirded-out computer techs, startlingly good writers and chicks who had popped scores you wouldn’t believe on tests at NSA that aren’t supposed to exist. They’d eat you for lunch, Maureen.

Now, I know that people at the New York Times have ample self-esteem, and indeed come coated with it to a depth of inches. How about we have a little understanding here. In journalism as in politics, advancement has little to do with merit. Have you checked the contents of the White House lately? Dan Rather and Connie Chung are pinnacles of anything at all? I’ve been around this game as long as you have and I know how the scam works. Getting to the upper ranks of journalism is a matter of luck, sexual sharing, brown-nosing, and staying carefully within the bounds of the regnant politics of the newsroom.

You are journalistic glitter, Maureen—Reporter Barbie, a literary Streisand. While working for the Times is perhaps nothing to be ashamed of, I’d keep quiet about it.

Maureen’s agonizing does however provide exegesis of the American female mind at a curious moment. Again and again their question seems to be, what form of pretense is needed to achieve marriage? Must I feign sex-kittenhood? Be a calculated suck-up who always laughs at his jokes? Hide my brains? The underlying idea is that they must commit some fraud to attract a man. This of course implies that they aren’t attractive without committing fraud.

I’ll give them that.

Those of us who have wives from Mexico, Thailand, the Philippines, Chile, or China view Maureen as being a very strange creature indeed, perhaps expelled from a geothermal vent. (“Hi! I’m Fred. What’s your phylum?”) Like Maureen, so many gringas don’t seem to know who they are, what they are, what they want to be, or how to get there. I think of a tinkertoy construction made by an insane two-year-old: a lot of protruding parts that don’t fit together.

By contrast foreign women are psychologically coherent. They are sexy because they are women and like being sexy, not as a Vaudeville act or marketing tool. Resentment is not their primary emotion. They love their children and regard raising them as a pleasure, not an imposition of which they are ashamed.

If you read Maureen and her littermates, you realize that they are those most uncomfortable of women, heterosexual man-haters. For example, Maureen, from her new book:

“Men, apparently, learn early to protect their eggshell egos from high-achieving women. The girls said they hid the fact that they went to Harvard from guys they met because it was the kiss of death.”

Who would marry that? Yet it is classic Maureen, snotty, catty, hostile. As for her own Kevlar ego, there’s this, from her interview with Howard Kurtz:

“Even after a decade of writing a New York Times column, she admits to being ‘very thin-skinned’ about criticism. ‘I'm just not temperamentally suited to it,’ Dowd says. ‘The first couple of years I spent curled up on the floor and crying.’”

Oh.

The drumbeat of animosity is never missing from her hetero-anguished feminism. Men are vain, frightened, immature, unreliable, treacherous, fascinated by gewgaws, obsessed with sex, and unfaithful. Several questions arise. If men are so bad, why does Maureen want one? What kind of men has she been running around with? Those closely resembling herself, it sounds as if. Most to the point, why would any man want anything to do with such a woman?

This confusion and hostility has made the American woman into an internationally acclaimed shrew. Yes, there are degrees, and perhaps more exceptions than examples, but talk to white men from Washington to Hong Kong and you see the same shudder.

These gals are wound too tight. Recently I was aboard a highway bus in an American enclave in Mexico. A gringa wanted to get off where there was no stop. The driver didn’t understand her. In Mexico they speak Spanish, a point which apparently had eluded her. She began yelling at him abusively. (Verbatim quote: “You’re the worst! You suck! You’re the worst!”)

They do this. People notice. A friend somehow found himself talking with a gringa who had one of those puffy little white dogs you could buff a truck with. He said, “Cute little thing. I’ve got a real dog.” This mild witticism set her into yelling.

Par.

Howard Kurtz, Washington Post, Saturday, November 5, 2005

 

I've blogged Kushboo's original comments in Tamil. You can see them on the following URL

http://blog.360.yahoo.com/blog-Y2MTaSA0RLDVTunp3KQgKh0-?p=78 http://www.livejournal.com/users/e_vinayak/1959.html http://batteredmale.blogspot.com/2005/11/kushboo-interview-from-india-today-sex...
A free translation with no recourse follows. If there are other Tamils, you are welcome to provide alternate / better translations. This translation may also be blogged / posted with some credit to me... but with no copyrights.. :

========= start kushboo's comments with some notes from me ==========

*From Sep 28 2005 India Today*

"Kushboo : ..Chennai *was* behind Bangalore with regard to women expressing sexual matters ...." (Note : I've used "matters" here as her Tamil word does not exactly translate to desires).

Kushboo : ".....Now women in Chennai are also crossing these mental taboos on sexual matters. We get to see a lot of women (girls? ) in Pubs and discos (at Chennai). (These days) Women can talk freely on matters regarding sex.  Slowly the woman is opening her wings and has started flying out in this restricted society. Still, accidents to women like Stephany raises some questions about how healthy this trend is?. Sex education is very essential in schools. Even if sex education is not provided in schools, parents have to teach their children about sex....."
Kushboo : "...For me sex is not just a physical thing. Its mental too. I can't understand how women can change their boy friends every week..." (Note : Kushboo says that she can't accept this habit of changing boy friends per week.... NOT that this does NOT happen !!. That means there are many girls who have weekly boyfriends and Kushboo who is aware of pubs and discos must have a good overview of this.
Note : Its quite possible that after a few years, meaning 52 x 4 = 208 boyfriends when these new age women get married, they would get rather tired of men and soon seek the 498A route :-()

Kushboo : "....If a girl is going strong with her boyfriend, she can go out with him after informing her parents..." (Note : No issue of seeking permission here. I've carefully read the Tamil word / words. It just says inform. Not seek permission)

Kushboo : "...If a girl has a Strong relationship, the parents have to allow that...." Note : all about relationships BEFORE marriage. Social acceptance of the same etc... and then comes the clincher)

Kushboo : "...Our society has to be liberated from thoughts like "a woman has to be a virgin at the time of marriage". No educated man would expect his wife to be a virgin. However, women have to safeguard themselves  from pregnancy or other disease, while having pre - marital sex....." Note : So the issues are just physiological and economic at the maximum. don't get pregnant before marriage and don't be left holding the baby !!. The issue is NOT about chastity..

Kushboo : "...I married the man I was in love with. Since we were sure about our relationships, we had sex before marriage. Its now six years since marriage. Since we have two children, our responsibilities have grown. Since the children sleep in the same room as we do we need to find other private times (/moments) for us. Still we have a happy married life. Married people should know how to satisfy their spouse's physical needs.  There would be no problems, if desires are understood mutually. ..." (Note : She has had pre marital sex. She says she married the same person. She was an actress BEFORE she was married.)

Kushboo : "...Some increase gratification by using sex books, photos etc. One cannot say that is wrong. At the same time At the same time, one should understand the other's likes, dislikes and comforts, discomforts. Men who mistake women talking about sex should change their views. Mutual consent is essential for sex. ..." (Note : Last para is some general whitewash .. The whole interview speaks tons about pre marital sex, sex between partners, safe sex and so on. At one point she cautions women *not* to get pregnant by Pre marital sex !!)


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marriage discords, separations and divorces

There are many cases of marriage discords, separations and divorces happening in Indian urban society. Lots of issues arise due to differences within the couple and their family members.

When the situation become uncontrollable, as a simple no fault divorce is NOT available under the Hindu Marriage act, both wife and husband have to approach courts with their exaggerated accusations towards each other. We cannot hold only one gender - as usual 'male' responsible for such problems, but both genders and all of us are equally responsible and are involved in every such social problem.

The Indian family and social customs, values, standards, roles and responsibilities are drastically changing due to education, social and media exposure, competition, new opportunities in life, high lifestyle demands, intolerance, fast-life and higher cost of living standards. All this including various other reasons impact the family and society. The society is getting into chaos, being fragmented day by day when it's heading for leading an individualistic, helpless and lonely life.

While women have been working, earning for themselves, fighting for equality and competing with men, they are still looked at as the weaker sex !!. While society is changing every day the Hindu Marriage Act has not been modified for a decade !!

Imagine NOT changing our cell phones for a decade :-) well we didn't have any a decade ago and wouldn't have any now :-(

Many children are getting single parenting and loosing their desired love of a father or mother. Many old parents, teenagers, minors, unmarried and married women in families have suffered due to such disturbances. Many of them are labeled 'criminals' in exaggerated complaints mainly of 'dowry-demand harassment' filed under criminal laws of 498A and 406 of IPC, and get tortured in jails due to complaints by their Daughter-In-Laws.

Most often the `top brass' of Indian Society including NRIs, IAS, doctors, software professionals, engineers and highly educated people have been tortured and have suffered due to biased provisions of Indian laws that do not provide enough ability to prove themselves innocent. The middle class gets especially hit as they are looked at as milch cows by the unscrupulous lawyers and the police

There should be a combined, sincere and selfless effort by social institutions, organizations, legislature, legal system and individuals to better understand the causes of any such problem right from its beginning and then to deal with unbiased and positive attitude.

As such cases are drastically increasing, so cannot be minimized by holding one person- the accused responsible, but all of us shall work collectively to genuinely workout peace and harmony in family and society.

If you wish to participate in our collective measures, please post a message here or write to one of the groups / blogs mentioned below  

Sunday, November 13, 2005 

'I went frantic, punching him'

Government must protect women's rights

Indian Government has taken away the rights of women to protect her husband by enacting and amending biased laws related to marriage, divorce, dowry and maintenance.

The Indian laws are so biased that women are unable to protect her husband and in-laws. Indian women who are revered for her sanctity and self-respect are deprived of her basic rights. Indian women who fought with Yamraj to get her husband back couldn't do so in the present times because of biased laws.

Women are unhappy seeing her husband being tortured by women's organisation. Why women are deprived of justice and their basic right to protect their husbands ? Women are unable stop her husband from paying her huge sum of money as alimony after divorce because the law relentlessly demand the husband to provide for his wife. Such laws are taking away the rights of women to protect her husband. Indian women are so heavenly that they would sacrifice everything for the well-being of her husband and in-laws but existing marriage and divorce laws are making Indian womens' life miserable.

The Government isn't doing anything to protect women from getting influenced by women's organisation and corrupt lawyers who ask educated women to file a false dowry harassment case on her loving husband and caring in-laws. How would a woman protect her husband from such misuse of laws ? Even if women want the child to stay with the father, the law still insists the child-custody to remain with the woman.

Women are unable to bear the pain of seeing her children to be deprived of their loving father. Women then starts brainwashing her kids saying that her husband isn't their father and she would introduce her new boyfriend to her kids saying that he is your new father. Isn't this injustice ?

Women are suffering because her husband are not being protected by law.

Only when such biased laws are eliminated then Indian women will be able to enjoy her rights to protect her husband and in-laws.

One actress says pre marital sex is common in Tamil Nadu and only a fool will expect his newly wed wife should be a "virgin" !!,
Lots of men complain, get their political parties to fight this actress & there is pandemonium in Tamil Nadu !!

Now another female actress says kushboo is right, and that the entire tamil community has to say sorry to the first one :-))  well.. Well...

Readers may note :
Womens' lib is mysteriously SILENT on this episode

My reading :

Womens' lib is NOT about supporting a female / actress. It's all about bashing men and milking 498A victims


Vinayak

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Kushboo moves HC to stay summons from dist courts
http://www.hinduonnet.com/thehindu/thscrip/print.pl?file=2005111006860400.htm&a...
CHENNAI: Defamation proceedings against actress Kushboo, initiated in judicial magistrate courts in Tiruvannamalai and Ariyalur districts by way of private complaints, have been stayed by the Madras High Court.

Justice R. Banumathi, granting stay for four weeks, admitted a petition filed by Kushboo and ordered notices to the respondents on Wednesday.

The matter relates to the private complaints lodged by Kamatchi of Tiruvannamalai district and Muthulakshmi of Ariyalur, stating that Kushboo had degraded their dignity in particular and that of Tamil society in general, by making certain observations about women and the concept of chastity in the modern context. The Tiruvannamalai court had issued summons asking the actress to personally appear before it on November 10.

Seeking to stay the proceedings and the operation of the summonses, Kushboo preferred the present petition, stating she never intended to insult or cause injury to the feelings of any section or community. She sought to quash the proceedings before the magistrate courts.

Support for Kushboo
Amid the development, Kushboo got unexpected support from Suhasini Maniratnam.

At the inauguration of the second International film festival of Tamil Nadu here, the actress reiterated that she stood by her remarks. She claimed they were made in a context while discussing the spread of AIDS.

After Kushboo said she stood by what she uttered earlier, Suhasini, in her address, noted there was nothing wrong in what Kushboo had stated. "I feel what has happened to Kushboo after speaking her mind to a magazine in support of AIDS is a disgrace to the entire Tamil community. On behalf of Tamil speaking people I offer my apologies to Kushboo," she added.

A moved Kushboo went up and hugged Suhasini.
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Gender Politics

Wednesday, November 09, 2005

Feminism VS Maleism

Why is there a need to dig in the frivolous differences between two genders ? We can’t agree more that both the genders are indispensable and inter-dependent.

However, it has becoming more and more vital to bring a real picture on this inter-dependence because of increase in bogus theories on genders. Idle people wouldn’t ask anything more than an opportunity for writing about genders especially on how women have come a long way by particularly mentioning about so-called oppression by men. I wonder what sort of intoxication they experience after glorifying their so-called achievements and falsely condemning men.

Lets look at this gender issue from an angle, which women would never dare to look. Why a man is what he is ? Why a woman is what she is ?

Women are natural bisexual beings and hence they hit it off quite comfortably with other women. Men, on the other hand, breed healthy competition with other men, which hinder their emotional bonding. Since women receive considerable emotional support from other women, the need of support from a man is not intense. Men do not receive the emotional support from other men and hence they crave for support from women. Women bonds with other women so remarkably that they tend to display dispassionate feelings for men. They refuse to accept what men are made of. This is called Feminism. Men are so much deprived of emotional support because of their masculinity status in the society that they tend to display persistent attraction towards women to acknowledge their emotional hunger. Unfortunately, they are given a bad name for acknowledging their natural attraction towards the opposite sex. Unlike earlier times, women have too started to acknowledge their physical wants and condemn men for suppressing women for so long, which has absolutely not rationale. It seems that women are unable to blame their own self for entertaining their mental blocks and feel relieved by blaming on men.

Society believes that males are devoid of basic emotions and do not require emotional support, which is an emotional abuse for men. Therefore, people begin to make irrational judgments that men give love to get sex and women give sex to get love. Why can’t this imply that a man can give love but a woman can’t ? What a man would do if he does not receive that emotional support from another woman especially after acknowledging the unproven norm that men are emotionally stronger too ? What will a man do after observing that woman does not possess the quality that would give him emotional support ? It is too easy for women to judge men especially when men fundamentally don’t display their need of emotional support because of fear of rejection and misunderstanding. Societies norms are such absurd that they would label a man gay if he seeks a support from another man or feeble-minded if he seeks support from another woman. What will a man do in such a situation ?

Women most often tend to believe that men do not want to get into a commitment because they believe men crave different sexual partners. Basically, men are too insecure and cautious of losing thier freedom, which is in fact true after seeing what happens to a woman after she possesses his commitment. Why would a woman want a man to follow all her instructions and fulfill all her wildest demands ? From where this norm was established that a man’s duty is to make a woman happy by all possible or impossible means ? How would a woman defend herself on such emotional abuse that a man goes through all his life ?

Now when women are beginning to achieve their unfulfilled goals and acknowledging their own potentials by completing education and pursuing a promising career, they must now look at the unproven norm from a justified angle. No. They won’t. Why ? Why would they lose such a wonderful opportunity where they could get the best of both the worlds ? They are free to do whatever they want with the whole world present to protect their rights and also enjoy the established norm that man’s duty is to make a woman happy. However, after such a radical transformation in the society, chances of refuting the established norms about men’s duties and rights are remote. Why ? Because the society sees physical strength as a duty towards women. The whole women liberation drama would have been beneficial for women if they had focused on what they want from their own self instead of what they must demand from men. And just to make it appear reasonable, women have begun to move the courtrooms to get their demands fulfilled by men. Why can’t we assume that women liberation is all about getting what women want from men legally ? If women liberation is about being independent then why women want men to support all their whimsical demands ? Perhaps the gender inter-dependence has come to its saturation and will only decline in the coming years.

The picture has already been seen with the increasing divorce, domestic violence, extramarital affairs, incest and many more. Wouldn’t it be necessary to look at the gender differences from both the gender’s view point instead of only women ? Wouldn’t it be realistic to acknowledge the fact that man and a woman are no longer inter-dependent because of coerced incompatibility and societies impractical norms ? From where women have received the rights to torture men’s sensibilities just because he is different from woman ? Why can’t a man be a man ? Why does a woman dislike a man for what he really is ? Why can’t a woman just accept this difference with an open mind instead of ruthlessly exposing men to emotional abuse ? Why does a woman want a man to be like a woman ? Why does a woman want to be free at the same time take away the freedom of a man ? This is Feminism

Would it be asking too much from a woman just to accept a man the way he is ? Masculinity is beginning to appear as a liability for men because they are allotted to fulfilled all the wishes of a woman. Isn’t this an emotional abuse towards men ? It seems that a man is paying a price for being a man and woman is enjoying the rights of being a woman. Does masculinity have to pay such a price that a man is liable to go to any heights to be accepted in the women’s society ? Because of the irrational norms, men are becoming victims of their own masculinity, thanks to feminism for establishing this norm. If a man does not conform to the norm then he is ridiculed and condemned in the society for being harsh towards women. Who has assigned this duty on men of protecting and providing women in all circumstances ? Who says that physical strength entails duty of protecting and providing women ? The time has come for men to understand that it would be beneficial to reject the desire of emotional support from women. Women have lost the ability to support anybody for that matter and apparently continue to create such vindictive norms to fuel their pride. Its time we men begin to take charge of comforting our own emotional self by respecting our physical body and taste the bliss of freedom.

Why can’t we men stretch the boundaries of our achievement and attain knowledge of the unknown ? Wouldn’t it be worth a life to accomplishment something that has never been thought before ? Wouldn’t it be worth a life to tread an unknown path and discover our limits of our potentials ? We men are more than convinced that women can’t satisfy our thirst for knowledge. How would you personally feel if you realized that never before you have thought of attaining a self-fulfilling life ? This is Maleism. If a woman is to procreate then man is to create. Create our own destiny, create a whole new world for our self, create an environment that would catapult us into a realm of self-discovery. Why would men want to continue to be the slaves of their own momentary sentiments which will come and vanish without a trace ? It was always a woman’s world from the outset. Let us all unite by providing emotional support to each other and make it a man’s world. This is Maleism.

http://www.centralchronicle.com/20051020/2010306.htm
Personal Thought: Misuse of Anti-dowry Act  

RK Shukla
The then Congress ruled government formulated a law in favour of women to curb dowry harassment tendencies, over and above legal provisions of anti-dowry Act. The dowry customs existed in India in several societies and many of such cases were just copying the traditions of several other families, in a bid to achieve at least equal status, if not higher.

There was no ulterior motive behind the dowries which were given freely and there were no criminal intentions involved but some anti-social elements far-stretched these customary practices in the marriages of bridegrooms and in some cases it assumed the dimension of selling the grooms.

Since these social customs witnessed the ebbs and falls of the social changes in the communities, it was considered to give more protection to the women victims for control of dowries changing hands. Normally the provision of anti-dowry Act were sufficient to tackle the ulterior motives attributed in dowry cases of the society, otherwise.

The overwhelming majority of the erstwhile Congress party in power, at the Centre, went further ahead to equip women against dowry cases, by bringing dowry harassment law where in Section 498-A was enacted.

This empowered the women to invoke dowry harassment provisions not within any reasonable period in life but the provision could attract institution of criminal cases any time in life against the husbands and their parents and even relatives, while the women's deaths within 7 years of marriage are considered to be the cases of dowry deaths.

The husbands are always facing the cruel provision of dowry harassment for the entire life. Not alone their husbands, but their family members can also be dragged into the clutches of dowry harassment law without any fault.
Mostly the women do not go to the police or court for truthful dowry harassment purposes but several other extraneous reasons are the root causes for tabling such cases like:
1) Inflicting cruelty over the husbands and their parents.

2) Blackmailing the husbands and their parents for ulterior purpose of grabbing their self-earned properties.

3) To break the joint family systems by throwing the elderly parents of the husbands in the lurch when they need social, financial security and health security.

4) To feed their egos, the wives resort to any nefarious means by causing humiliation to their husbands and their families.

5) To take revenge due to even minor unwanted events while living with the husbands.

6) Class conflict in which the working women have started considering them to be upper or higher class of the society.

7. Due to local marriages which create undesirable situations when wives do not leave their parents even for a month while the husbands need wives' presence in their houses during religious festivals, social customs and other requirements of conjugal rights.

8. Wives advocating to enjoy social freedom, flirting, roaming with partners of opposite sexes even by hiding their faces by using burkas, if opposed by inlaws.

9. Banking on false, fabricated evil stories against their husbands and family members by self inflicted injuries and implicating the innocent people.

10. To humiliate the non earning privately employed husbands by those wives who, by chance or by backing, got some government jobs even after it being a low category job.

Marriages are designed for social harmony and symbiotic approach in the family for supporting the joint family norms for reciprocal needed assistance to the elderly and the children. But these attributes merely decorate the dictums of the books and magazines.
The hard fact of life has changed the social scenario by these conflicts and dowry harassment laws are misused as legal tools against the husbands and their families. Only one sided inquiry and investigation are conducted by the police. Some cases of political pressure, favouritism, nepotism and monetary gain by the investigating agencies are often seen to surface.
Since dowry harassment cases are rising year after year, many courts including high courts and Supreme Court have observed that most of the dowry harassment caes arre falsely fabricated bearing no truth, just to earn the property of the husbands and their families and other causes as mentioned in the above para.

Several lawyers have sought intervention of the courts for propr relief to the husbands due to this malpractice. It would be not out of place to mention the rulings and strictures of Supreme Court in their judgement published in the Central Chronicle dt 22.07.05 under the captioned title `Supreme Court admits dowry Act harassing'.

Supreme Court observed that merely because the provision is constitutional, it does not give the licence to unscrupulous persons to wreck personal vendetta or unleash harassment. It may therefore become necessary for the legislature to find out ways how the makers of false and frivolous complaints or allegations can be appropriately dealt with.

Though the object of the provision was to prevent the menace of dowry, the bench agreed with the petitioner that many instances have come to light where the complaints are not bonafide and have been filed with oblique motives.

http://pib.nic.in/release/release.asp?relid=10493&kwd=dowry
STATEMENT OF MOS(HOME) ON REPORTED INCIDENTS ON ATROCITIES ON WOMEN

Following is the statement made by the Minister of State for Home Affairs, Shri Sriprakash Jaisawal in the Lok Sabha today in response to the Calling Attention Motion tabled by Prof. Vijay Kumar Malhotra regarding the situation arising out of reported increase in the incidents of atrocities on women in Delhi and other parts of the country:-
“At the outset I share the deep concern of the Hon’ble Members of this august House about the incidents of atrocities on women in the country. I would like to assure the House that the Government is fully conscious of the problem and would not spare any effort to ensure security and safety of women in the country.
2.         As per all-India statistics compiled by the National Crimes Record Bureau (NCRB), the number of major crime against women such as rape, kidnapping/abduction, dowry deaths, cruelty by husbands/relatives, molestation, Indecent Representation of Women (Prohibition) Act, Immoral Traffic (Prevention) Act and Dowry (Prohibition) Act, reported during the years 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2005(up to March) was as follows:

2001	-	1,33,935
2002	-	1,32,803
2003	-	1,28,230
2004	-	1,33,865
January to March, 2004	-	30,114
January to March, 2005	-	29,932

3.         It may be seen from these figures that in comparison to the year 2001, there was decline in the overall incidence of crime against women in the country during the year 2004. The figures of crime against women for the first three months of the current year also indicate a downward trend as compared to the corresponding period of previous year. However, the figures in respect of all the four years show a mixed trend.
4.         The number of crimes against women reported in the NCT of Delhi under the major crime heads of  dowry death, rape,  molestation of women, 406 IPC relating to dowry, 498 IPC- cruelty by husband or in-laws, Dowry Prohibition Act, kidnapping/abduction and eve-teasing during the years 2001, 2002, 2003, 2004 and 2005 (up to 15st July) was as follows:  

2001	-	3,870
2002	-	4,106
2003	-	4,338
2004	-	5,568
January to 15th July, 2004	-	3,042
January to 15th July, 2005	-	2,706

5.         The above figures show that in comparison to the year 2001, there has been an overall increase in the incidence of crime against women in Delhi during 2002, 2003 and 2004. The figures of crime against women for the period from January to 15th July of the current year indicate a decline in the overall crime rate as compared to the figures for the corresponding period of  previous year. However, it is a fact that there has been increase in rape cases in Delhi during 2003, 2004 and the first seven months of the current year.
6.         The Delhi Police has taken effective steps in the recent past to check the incidence of crime against women. These steps include:  (i) Strengthening of Crime against Women Cell (CWC); (ii) setting up of Rape Crisis Intervention Centres; (iii)            Constitution of Special Session Courts with female judges; (iv) Investigation of rape and other related crimes by Women Police Officers or associating women police with the Investigating Officers in such cases; (v)            Undertaking legal awareness and publicity campaigns; (vi) Posting of a lady police constable in PCR Vans patrolling the prominent women colleges; (vii) Posting of plain-clothes police personnel at vulnerable places in the city to curb eve-teasing and molestation and to keep surveillance on criminals; (viii) Setting up Women Help Line No. 1991; and (ix) Constitution of a round the clock “Women Mobile Team” to attend to urgent and distress/emergency calls from women; etc. As a result of these steps, there is greater awareness among women to report the instances of crime.
7.         Unfortunately, in spite of these steps taken by Delhi Police, two cases of rape have occurred recently in quick succession. These cases have received wide media coverage. The first case relates to abduction of a girl from Dhaula Kuan and her rape in a moving car in the night of 7/8th May, 2005. In this case Delhi Police has been successful in arresting one of the accused persons. The Delhi Police has taken a number of steps to nab the other culprits. The second case, which was of similar nature, relates to abduction of a woman from Mayapuri and her rape in a moving car on 20th July, 2005. Delhi Police has undertaken a very comprehensive exercise to workout this case.
8.         Heterogeneous character of population is one of the factors that influences the incidence of crime in Delhi.  There is a positive co-relation between the growth in crime and population of the city.  Besides population, other factors like floating population, urbanization and industrialization leading to migration of population from neighboring states, unemployment, economic disparity, decreasing social and family bonds also influence the incidence of crime.
9.         An analysis of the data pertaining to rape cases reveals that in the year 2003, 2004 and 2005, in more than 97% cases, family members, neighbours, close friends and relatives, who had clear access to the victim, were involved in committing the rape.  Therefore, the problem cannot be solved by Police action alone. Creating social awareness through education in families, schools and colleges would help to improve the attitude of the society towards women.  This will go a long way in checking this crime.
10.        I would like to assure the Hon’ble Members that the Government will take further steps to improve the sense of security among the women in Delhi.”
OK/AD/MM

http://www.asianage.com/main.asp?layout=2&cat1=6&cat2=42&newsid=190...

The Teflon-Coated Indian
- By Suhel Seth

If you look around, you will observe that very little shakes the average Indian and even more so if he or she is in public life. A corrupt politician like Lalu Prasad Yadav can plant his wife as chief minister; the most corrupt bureaucrat can head a commission for life just so that he occupies a Lutyens’ bungalow; the biggest scamster of a broker like Ketan Parekh can take holidays at Wildflower Hall and people like Dilip Pendse and his ilk can hold their heads high when they have been corporate thieves of the worst kind. Not to mention the glory that people like Sukh Ram attain for their corrupt ways.

It seems that nothing ever matters as long as you can fix the system. I wonder if anything will ever happen to Bal Thackeray’s secretary who ran over some people, or whether Bollywood will ever be cleansed from cocaine and Dawood. It is just as if life in India is destined to go on.

Which is why I cannot understand all the fuss about Natwar Singh. All said and done, I do not believe Natwar Singh is corrupt at all: nor do I believe he is the kind who would do what he has been accused of doing. But Natwar’s biggest enemy is Indian society. We have become so used to seeing our political leaders turn out to be corrupt rogues that we will punish Natwar until he is proven innocent.

There is no question that the average citizen is truly disgusted with the system. You have an absolute clown like Deve Gowda attack Narayana Murthy and then you have all of industry which does precious little to rally around him in support: much in the same manner when people like Anu Aga and Deepak Parekh were isolated when they attacked the genocide that Narendra Modi unleashed in Gujarat. It is this complete lack of responsibility that is galling. No one cares because we have already decided, in an almost fatalistic way, that things will not improve. It is this Teflon coating that will leave India gasping for breath in the years to come.

Our political system is already in shambles: we have puppets in posts that are meant for people with integrity. You have family retainers being appointed governors of states and people like Buta Singh are anathema to any form of good governance.

Will this rot ever be stemmed? Media is taking positions that it can barely hold onto. There are more plants in Indian newspapers than perhaps in greenhouses. Journalists are getting richer by the day and not all of them have left to start a new channel so what on earth is truly happening? Post the article I wrote praising some Delhi schools, I was severely castigated, for the same very schools are actually in the business of accepting money for seats and parents have no choice but to submit to this kind of extortion. Then you have luminaries like Pandit Birju Maharaj who say they will not move out of government accommodation simply because they are eminent. Can they, for once, be honest too?

The saving grace as far as administering this country is concerned is the succour provided by the courts, or else even in terms of basic governance we would have collapsed. We have a strange situation about worrying as to when Ghulam Nabi Azad will be the next chief minister of Jammu and Kashmir, rather than worrying about all the help that is needed when people are dying post the quake. It is a series of accidents that we live our lives through and yet something seems to keep us going.

Our children are growing up with the same set of values. The I-can-get-away syndrome has afflicted us all. I see more and more young people concerning themselves only with the end and never with the means, which in other words is yet another nod at creating social mishaps as long as you get the desired results. There are companies in India, which are doing more for their promoters than their shareholders, and you have organisations like the SEBI turning a blind eye.

Sometimes I wonder if anything at all can affect us: just about any thing. We are a nation that has invented human Teflon and I guess that is what is helping us stay alive. I don’t know, what this Teflon will do to our values though, but then again, is that really important in the end game as it were?

http://dnaindia.com/report.asp?NewsID=8337&CatID=1

The double-edged rape-ier

Seema Kamdar

Friday, November 04, 2005  00:37 IST

Case 1: A minor girl from Malad recently alleged that a gym instructor had raped her. But later, cops found no evidence to suggest that the youth had sexually abused the girl. The case is under investigation

Case 2: A bar dancer in Nerul accuses a policeman of raping her. Police say evidence suggests that the woman had a relationship with the accused and sex was probably consensual

Case 3: An executive in a Delhi PR company spent two months in Tihar jail for rape. Later, investigations established that he was having an affair with the woman for two years and she wanted him to marry her. When he refused, she filed rape charges which she later withdrew as `false'

Case 4: During the 2004 World Social Forum, a South African judge of Indian origin, Sirajuddin Desai, was accused of rape by a fellow delegate from the same country. The sessions court later let him off after she withdrew her complaint and circumstantial evidence hinted at consensual sex

Case 5: In Bhayandar last year, a 17-year-old girl falsely accused her father of rape

In common parlance, it is called a false complaint. Legal eagles call it malicious prosecution.

While rape laws in the country are justifiably stringent, recently a few cases have indicated that the law can be misused, and has end up damaging lives in profound ways. So, if the girl is found to have filed a false complaint, what is the remedy available to the accused, who, ironically, then becomes the victim?

But do the police act?

The general perception is that the cops don't act. But lawyers say there is no reason why the police should not ruthlessly pursue cases, which have been proved to be false. The police are duty-bound to file a final report in every case, which falls into one of the three categories:

`A final': Says the case is true but undetected (the case is left dormant till evidence possibly emerges at a later date)

`B final':  Says the complaint was false (it could be followed up by prosecution of the complainant)

`C final': Neither true nor false.

Yet, there are a few cases where a false complainant is brought to book. In one instance, dating back to the prohibition, a tenant who had falsely implicated his landlady for drunken misbehaviour found himself at the wrong end of the stick when the police detected his complaint to be bogus. He was prosecuted and convicted.

Former DGP S S Puri, a law expert as well, says false complaints are more an aberration than the norm. Police say most false complaints fall under a few laws meant for weaker sections of society like Section 498 A of the IPC (dowry cases), Protection of Civil Rights Act or the Schedule Castes and Scheduled Tribes (Prevention of Atrocities) Act.

Crying rape is not that rare While on one hand, rape remains a highly under-reported crime, on the other, there are instances of women seeking personal vendetta by crying rape. In the last year alone, there were two such instances reported in the city.  But can a minor be sued by the police or by the aggrieved party?

Yes, say some lawyers. Section 82 of the IPC grants unconditional immunity to a child below seven years of age. However, the next section, 83, says, "An act of a child above seven and under 12 of immature understanding: nothing is an offence which is done by a child above seven years of age and under 12 who has not attained sufficient maturity of understanding to judge the nature and consequences of his conduct on that occasion."

This indicates that anybody above seven years, and with a sound mind, can be prosecuted for an offence. However, offenders under 18 years will be prosecuted by the juvenile justice board.

Advocate Shrikant Bhatt is of the view that anybody of whatever age can be prosecuted for filing a false complaint. "For IPC offenders, it doesn't matter if he or she is a minor or major," he says. He/she does not even get the protection of section 82 and section 83."

Public prosecutor Rohini Salian, who represents the police in courts, however, says minors can be sued only as a juvenile under the Juvenile Justice Act before the Juvenile Justice Board. "Most of these cases, if convicted, end up in a remand home," she says. "The conditions in remand homes are far from ideal for corrective therapy."

A better option therefore, says advocate Raju Moray, is to introduce the idea of community service for offenders as is done in the US.

Why arrest an accused unless there is prima facie evidence? The arrest of the gym instructor has also raised a crucial point of law: is it necessary to arrest any person named in a cognisable complaint? Lawyers claim police jump the gun and promptly arrest an accused in cognisable offences. As a result of this trend, many resort to misuse.

"I know an elderly couple who has been blackmailed by their son and daughter-in-law to sell their house for fear of being arrested by the police in a false dowry case," says Moray.
Police admit to a certain degree of misuse. And the fact that police often act promptly on such complaints encourages their misuse, feel lawyers.

"It is not imperative for the police to arrest an accused on the basis of a complaint," says Bhatt. Section 157 of the IPC says if the police receive information about a cognisable offence, it "should proceed to the spot, investigate facts and circumstances of the case, and, if necessary, take measures for the discovery and arrest of the offender."

Cops, however, dispute this point. "We are damned if we do and damned if we don't," says a senior police officer. "Take this girl's case. Had we not arrested the gym instructor, there would have, probably, been a huge women's morcha to the police station."

Another police officer points out that in a complaint of rape it is important to arrest the accused. "How else can we conduct a medical examination or interrogate him?" Most importantly, SC judgments clearly prescribe arrest "in prima facie serious cases".

Section 177 A false complainant can be prosecuted for knowingly furnishing false information to a public servant "regarding the commission of an offence." The section provides for a two-year jail term or fine or both. However, the police cannot start investigations under without a magistrate's permission.

Section 182 The victim can also seek recourse to Section 182 of the IPC, which deals with giving false information to a public servant in order "to cause him to use his power to injure or annoy anybody". The sentence for this offence is maximum imprisonment of six months or fine or both.

Section 211 This section goes a step further and slaps a punishment of the same description on a false complainant that would be applicable on the accused had the charge been proved.

Section 376 Rape carries an imprisonment of not less than seven years extending up to life and a fine. This provision is invoked in a false charge of offence meant with the intent to injure in such a manner that gets criminal proceedings launched against that person. Proving the "intention" of the complainant holds the key.

Section 499 Apart from police action, the aggrieved party can also file a criminal case for defamation, under Section 499. The punishment in the latter case could go up to two years in jail, along with a fine.

Section 203 A multi-causes civil suit for damages under the head of defamation causing trauma, shock damage to a career is also possible. Another provision that could be invoked on a false complainant is Section 203, which deals with giving false information concerning an offence.

From
http://misformalevolent.blogspot.com/2005/08/is-for-alimony-part-ii-or-why-alimony.html
 with credits to the original author

A is for Alimony Part II - or - Why Alimony is Wrong

Alimony is wrong.

Note that I don’t phrase this as a question – this isn’t a game show, although many men are in ‘jeopardy’. Still, for many, it is a question – some people just don’t 'get' that anything could be wrong with the concept or execution of alimony. In fact many consider it misogynous to verbalize the idea that alimony might be wrong. Once, when I commented that my well-compensated ex should just get on with her life, one of my lawyers said: “All men say that.” No tiptoeing around PC language like; ‘higher wage earner’, no, my lawyer said it the way it is – men pay alimony and women collect it, and men don’t like it. But let’s get to the point of my post – that Alimony Is Wrong. That Alimony is Wrong needs to be explained to the world, in very simple language that can be understood by all. So, getting to it:

Alimony Is Wrong Because:
Alimony is a form of slavery: If you get divorced, earn more than your ex spouse, are a man and get a divorce you will be paying a significant portion of your income to her against your will for years – without the choice to change careers and earn less (oh, you can change careers, but the courts will ‘impute’ your prior income to you and take the alimony out of your salary before it hits your bank account). This is slavery. Wikipedia defines slavery as follows: “Slavery is a condition of control over a person, known as a slave, against his or her will, enforced by violence or other forms of coercion. Slavery almost always occurs for the purpose of securing the labor of the slave.” It goes on to note that ‘Chattel Slavery’ is a specific form where the slaves can be bought and sold. So short of being bought and sold, alimony makes men slaves. The Constitution’s Thirteenth Amendment has the following to say on slavery: Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction. Very simply, Alimony is Slavery, and against the human rights specified in the Constitution of the United States.

Alimony is Involuntary Servitude: The Department of Justice notes on involuntary servitude that US Code specifies that it is “unlawful to hold a person in a condition of slavery, that is, a condition of compulsory service or labor against his/her will.”, and further requires as a definition of Involuntary Servitude: “that the victim be held against his/her will by actual force, threats of force, or threats of legal coercion”. They continue to note that the US Code “[…]prohibits compelling a person to work against his/her will by creating a ‘climate of fear’ through the use of force, the threat of force, or the threat of legal coercion.” They couldn’t have described the process of enforcing alimony and child support better if they had put their mind to it. -Title 18 USC Section 1584

Alimony and Child Support are “Debt Servitude” or “Peonage”: A debt is the requirement that an individual pay a sum of money, and tying this debt to labor that you require an individual to undertake in order to pay off this sum is peonage under the US Code. When a court in addition imputes a man’s income, attaches to his wages, and takes more than 10% of his income (65% being what the court is allowed to take in NJ), without recourse being allowed to bankruptcy, it becomes an even more obvious. Clearly Alimony is Debt Servitude/Peonage. -Title 18 USC Section 1581

Divorce Agreements Specifying Alimony are Unconscionable Contracts: An unconscionable contract is a contract that is “so unfair to a party that no reasonable or informed person would agree to it.” Clearly any contract that reduces one party to involuntary servitude or debt servitude must be considered unconscionable. To prove this, lawyers usually try to prove that the contract was signed under duress, undue influence, or unconscionable bargaining. Duress includes threats of imprisonment (hmm, sounds familiar) and threats of withholding or taking money or goods in exchange for payments or signatures (this is also a pervasive element of divorce). Undue Influence seems moot in a court system where the Judges are trained to ignore men's rights, and men are assumed to need to pay. I think it is fair to presume that undue influence is present in alimony, because the man really has no choice but to sign the divorce contract. Unconscionable Bargaining is where one party did not understand the consequence of signing the contract. Mostly at the divorce agreement stage, men understand too well, but have no choice (duress) – but their fate was sealed at another signature point – the marriage contract signing point. I think it is fair to argue that men paying alimony in general did not understand the implications of marriage when they got married, and in most cases would not have done so if they had known the very real and mechanical outcome of the failure of their marriage. In this way, a foundational agreement that is presumed in the divorce agreement is a product of unconscionable bargaining. So in several ways, divorce agreements specifying alimony are unconscionable contracts.

Alimony is Chauvinist in Effect – Discriminatory Against Men: The vastly overwhelming majority of alimony-payers are men, and it is well known and admitted that divorce laws relating to alimony and division of property are applied differently depending on who the sex of the higher wage-earner is. This is against our guarantee of equal rights in the constitution.

Feel free to add your own reasons, and I will return to add more myself. But for now…

-Good Evening and Best Wishes
-M

From :
http://hatemalepost.blogspot.com/2005/11/s-is-for-suicide.html
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S is for Suicide

ORIGINAL POST AT http://hatemalepost.blogspot.com/2005/11/s-is-for-suicide.html posted by MisAnDrope